Therapy for People Pleasers
Signs you might be a people pleaser
The day ends before you’ve had a moment for yourself
You’re buried in tasks you’ve agreed to do for others, leaving little time for your own work
Decision-making becomes a struggle for fear of disappointing someone else
You find yourself resenting people who decline invitations without a “good reason”
You’ve stayed in a job you hate for years because it’s never a good time to quit (how would your coworkers manage without you?)
You’re starting to feel irritated when people ask for your help
You tell yourself you’re just being helpful. After all, it feels good to be needed. But trying to be everything for everyone else is taking a toll.
You feel frustrated when your partner takes a break while you rush around trying to meet everyone’s needs. You’d love to relax, but there’s always something you’re responsible for—gifts to wrap, errands to run, favors to fulfill.
Your friendships might feel lopsided. You give and give, but when it’s your turn, there’s no one around to support you. At work, you take on projects you’re not equipped for just to prove you’re a “good employee,” only to burn out trying to meet unrealistic expectations.
When you finally reach your limit and can’t say “yes” to one more thing, you feel overwhelmed and inadequate.
Life shouldn’t feel this hard.
When you try to make everyone else happy, your boundaries often get pushed aside.
But boundaries have been misunderstood in our culture. Setting boundaries doesn’t mean being selfish, making ultimatums, or controlling others.
In fact, boundaries are a way of expressing your needs with kindness and clarity—whether or not others change.
Boundaries are essential for reclaiming your agency. They empower you to express what you need to feel balanced, supported, and whole. And when you honor your own needs, you can show up for others in ways that are more meaningful—and less draining.
Imagine only saying “yes” when it feels right, and giving with joy rather than resentment. Imagine having enough energy to care for your family because you didn’t deplete yourself trying to meet everyone else’s demands first.
If we work together, we’ll focus on setting healthy boundaries in a way that feels authentic to you. We’ll also explore any deeper patterns, like worthiness wounds, that might be driving your need to please. It’s not selfish to take care of yourself; it’s helping you feel better so you can do better for those you love.
Ready to take back control?
It’s okay to prioritize yourself sometimes! Schedule your free 15-minute consultation, and let’s explore how we can start bringing balance back into your life.